Feeling turned off? Here's how to discover the powerful woman you already are

Many women, busy with their family and couple lives, have put themselves aside for years, sometimes neglecting their deepest aspirations. Over time, some have forgotten their dreams or failed to achieve their personal goals. Forty is often a pivotal time in life, when people start to question themselves and a desire to reinvent their lives emerges. The key to a successful transition is to return to yourself. Here's how to discover your power and regain control of your life.

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Caught between social pressures, mental burdens and the quest for meaning, women may one day feel the need to reinvent themselves. This awakening often occurs in mid-life (late thirties to mid-fifties), a stage of life when a life review is inevitably in order, and which gives rise to an inner turmoil. Evaluating the last decade or two of one's life often reveals dissatisfaction or questioning. After so many years of putting yourself second, of giving so much to those you love that you've forgotten yourself, it's time to slow down, take stock and reposition yourself.

This is a conversation I had on my podcast with Sylvana Trépy, psycho-emotional coach (in French only). In it, we explored a fundamental subject: how women can regain sovereignty over their lives. Far from empty slogans, this discussion plunged into the depths of identity, past wounds and reclaiming oneself. This article is a synthesis, for all those who feel the call to rediscover themselves, pick themselves up and realize their full potential, guilt-free.

Turning inward: the essential first step

As Sylvana rightly reminds us, it all starts with a sincere return to oneself. Too often, women forget themselves in favor of others - children, partner, family, work. They wear a thousand hats without ever taking the time to ask themselves: “Who am I really? What do I want?".

This return to oneself requires silence, observation and honesty. It involves shedding masks and welcoming our emotions, our doubts and our deepest needs. It's only by identifying what's alive inside us that we can begin to heal and move forward with serenity.

Learn to listen to and understand your emotions

Emotions are not our enemies. They are indicators, warning signals, messengers of the soul. For Sylvana, learning to welcome and decode them is a fundamental skill that too few women have learned to develop.

Anger, for example, can signal a crossed boundary or an unmet need. Sadness may reveal an unhealed wound. By understanding the language of emotions, we stop fearing or repressing them. We transform them into allies, compasses towards what's right for us.

Healing to stop being ruled by your wounds

A large part of our lives is influenced by our unconscious: our fears, our childhood wounds, our limiting beliefs. Sylvana insists on this point: as long as these wounds remain in the shadows, they govern our choices, our relationships and our emotions.

The work she proposes, inspired by Socratic maieutics, aims to bring inner truth to birth. It's not the coach who provides the answers, but the person being coached who discovers them along the way. This awareness is liberating. When a hidden wound becomes conscious, it loses its destructive power.

Equip yourself to move forward with confidence

Awareness is the first step, but it's not enough. We also need tools, skills and concrete strategies to avoid falling back into old patterns. It is by equipping herself that a woman becomes powerful. Sylvana stresses the importance of emotional education, time management, organization, self-knowledge and assertiveness.

That's why she creates support and training programs, so that women are no longer helpless in the face of life's challenges. Knowing yourself is one thing. But knowing how to set limits, say no, define priorities and plan actions is also empowerment.

Become a lioness again, gentle and powerful

Sylvana likes to use the metaphor of the lioness: gentle with her cubs, strong when it comes to protection, strategic when it comes to hunting. This is how she sees women: capable of power, gentleness, resilience and greatness. But to do so, they need to reconnect with their essence.

Too often, women live under the gaze of others, according to external injunctions. They feel guilty for wanting more, for wanting different. They take a back seat to society's expectations, or to the expectations of unsympathetic friends and family.

For Sylvana, wearing her crown means assuming her value, her ambitions, her uniqueness. It means no longer apologizing for existing, for wanting to succeed, for wanting more joy, more freedom, more meaning.

“It's important to know what you want, what you're worth and what you really want and to stop trying to please everyone.”

Sylvana Trépy

Break out of isolation and ask for help

One of the keys Sylvana emphasizes is the courage to ask for help. Too often, women think they have to manage everything on their own. But asking for support is not a sign of weakness, it's a sign of lucidity and strength.

This can start with listening to a podcast, reading a book, talking to a friend or consulting a professional. The most important thing is not to remain alone with your pain or confusion. Yes, we can all cope, but not by isolating ourselves.

Pass on to transform

Sylvana's aim is to create a community of powerful women who support each other and grow together. For her, sharing experiences, passing on knowledge and building sisterhood are the keys to collective transformation.

Her ambition is to equip women not only for their own journey, but also so that they in turn can inspire, guide and uplift other women. Because that's how the world changes: an awakened woman awakens others.

In conclusion: become the heroine of your own life again

This podcast episode sounded like an invitation to reclaim one's place, to heal, to assert oneself. The path is not easy, but it is possible. Every woman can choose to reconnect with herself, to heal her wounds, to learn, to equip herself, and to walk with confidence towards the life she deserves.

As Sylvana says: it's never too late to be yourself. There's no age limit to realizing your dreams. All it takes is one sincere, aligned first step.

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